Be Playful, Sing and Dance

Do you think this is just for parties? No, singing and dancing and being playful improves your personality. You become more open, more light hearted. You become attractive by being playful. People tend to stick with you and follow you. You become a magnet for people. It also adds to your ability to face difficult situations in a playful way. Everything in life is a game. We need not win it, we just need to play it. When we know this, we can take up biggest of the stress with ease.

Value others contribution, be grateful

: If you feel you are independent, think again. Nobody really is independent. We are all interdependent. We depend on a lot of people in our life. Right from food, accessories, home, medical, emotional support, love etc etc everything. Can you imagine a life without these dependencies? We will be as good as dead.

So, we should be grateful to all those around us, making our lives worthwhile. Thank them everyday. Once in a while recognize everybody’s contribution. Trust me, they will even contribute more once they know you appreciate what they do for you.

Always Add Value

Whether you are earning millions or hundreds, the question is are you adding value. If not, sooner or later you will be eliminated. That’s the law of the nature, nature eliminates anything and everything which is not required. Everyday at office, add value, create something new, have discussions on company’s progress, do networking, create some deals for the company, be proactive and anticipate what your boss needs, try to fulfill that, exert your self fully. Take initiatives, take action points in meetings and do those, ask questions in the meeting, people should feel your presence in the meeting. Don’t be a dead person, just tugging along.

Do you like your job?

It’s better you do. Every person has to do his Karma, has to earn his living and contribute to the society in some way. This is the law of the nature. There are few of us fortunate, who do what they love. Others do their jobs. Whether you like it or not, you have to do work. You have to spend significant part of your life at work. As you are giving it a part of your life, you better like that part of your life as well. We can only like it if we enjoy it. And we will enjoy it if we fill everyday with enthusiasm. Create challenges for yourself within your job. Achieve those challenges, you will feel good. Always keep on adding to yourself, keep growing.

If the present job doesn’t fulfill you, create another part time opportunity which is closer to your interest. E.g if you are in Engineering and teaching is your interest, try out teaching kids free of charge on weekends or evenings. Or try out giving tuitions in your community.

How to be a Great Orator

I learnt 3 things about how to deliver a Great Speech

1. Clear the clog inside yourself by shouting loudly: When alone, scold some imaginative person, practice saying NO promptly, with full enthusiasm. Clear the clog inside you.

2. Learning to say straight things in a Firm way, with fewer clearer words: I used to say things round and round, just to be polite. This had a negative impact on my growth. People tend to follow Clear and Firm persons. It is very difficult to follow somebody, if his or her message is not clear. I used to delve into analysis and paralysis, while giving any answer or presentation. I used to try to give as accurate information as possible, to the “8th decimal” point. But it used to be very unclear for my people. I learnt that we should say the “Rounded Off” message, enough to make sense. Complicating beyond what is needed makes things worse. Round off your message, in such a way, that your message goes through. You need to know what message should go through, degree of accuracy of data does not matter then.

3. Intensity of your voice: Do you speak slowly or meekly ? No matter how good you are, if you do not speak with good intensity, you are taken as a soft person. Record your voice once in a while and listen to it. Would you like to follow this voice. Make changes in how you speak, again record. Continue to refine it till you see visible impact of this on your colleagues and subordinates. If a leader speaks Firmly, he is perceived as confident, honest and solid leader.

I sincerely believe a person with the above 3 things makes a good orator.

Come out of your comfort zones

What are comfort zones? These are psychological barriers, which prevent us to do anything not familiar. Why do we need to comeout of these ? To grow, to become free, to enjoy our life more. In professional life, to gain more leadership capabilities.

Most common comfort zones, preventing us to be a great leader are:

a. Public Speaking

b. Making our point, selling ourselves

c. Talking to strangers

d. Taking up risks

e. Taking Criticism, getting feedback

f. Giving Criticism, giving feedback

g. Being straight, Saying No

How to come out of comfort zone? I think first thing we need to do is Believe, believe that we can do it. How to make your mind believe the unthinkable? Once in a while do outrageous things, adventures, like tracking difficult terrains, running marathon etc. More than physical it is a mental training. This will give us mental power to believe that we can do beyond what we think we can. Increase your stamina and confidence.

Once you start doing adventurous things, and have some confidence, take up the point which you think you cannot do. Write down or discuss with somebody, why you cannot do. Write down the reasons. Overcome those reasons one by one. Practice the thing which you think you cannot do.

Do more to be more energetic

Have you ever experienced that some days, we work all day, then travel through out the night and then next day we are able to perform pretty well as well. And on some other days, we rest well 1 day, sleep well in the night and still the next day goes lousy. Atleast it has happened to me a number of times.


You must have seen doctors, even after continuously working all day, without eating much, they are still energetic in the evening to takeup any emergencies

Amazing, isn’t it.

The trick here is, the more we utilize our energies, more is given to us. Less we use up, whatever we have , even that is sapped. Nature’s law is that, whatever is not used, gets extinct. And whatever is used, gets even stronger and bigger.

So when you feel like sleeping in the afternoon, go out and do a brisk walk for 2 Km. You will feel the rush of energies.

We need to empty our energies to make room for more and more energy.

Take more and more Responsibility, expand yourself

Responsibility is never given, it is taken. Always be enthusiastic to take more responsibility. Power comes with responsibility , the more responsibility you take, more powerful you get. Why your boss is more powerful than you? Because he takes up more responsibility than you.


There is one great secret of life, the more responsibility you take, easier it is. Bigger theresponsibility, more resources you will have, more space you will have to maneuver. E.g if you have 10 projects, even if one fails, you have pretty good success rate, but if you have only 1 project and that itself fails, you success rate is very low. Lower the responsibility, more suffocating it is, because you are in a smaller space.

Taking up Responsibility has a cumulative effect, the more you take, people will see you more dependable and more competent for taking up bigger responsibilities. You will gain trust of more and more people

Make Commitments, even more than you think you can do, resources will come,

Normally we do not commit because we look at our resource situation, which doesn’t look adequate. Trick is to commit, at least 50% more than your capacity. Resources will follow, if you are committed for a cause. People will muster resources for you once they own-up the task. Don’t be afraid of the failure.

How does it work? E.g Marriage decision, you think you cannot marry right now because your salary is not good enough for 2 people to make a decent living. Obviously, you should not get married if you are not even employed. But if you are doing OK and still are afraid, go ahead and make the commitment. Once you make the commitment, your inner self knows now, that you have no other choice but to do it. Then it starts exploring more resources, e.g finding a better job, starting job for your partner, working harder to get a promotion, impressing your boss by inviting him home, increasing social circle by having a family now, leaving bad habits(and save some money) etc etc. There are a number of ways you can expand your resources, once you commit. If in the same situation, you don’t commit, continue the same path, chances are that you will not make eny effort in expanding your resources or conserving your resources.

Commitment gives a mental barrier to channelize our resources. Then life becomes a stream. It gives a focus to our goal, and if the focus is laser sharp, you can even cut through iron.

Commitment is how you expand yourself. Commit to a goal, accomplish it, commit to another one and move on, keep on conquering the world.

Change your role as fast as you can

In life we play multiple roles. Role of a father, son, husband, employee, manager, colleague. We should know what to do in each role and not to mix one role with the other. E.g Don’t be an employee when you are in front of your son, just be a father. Sameway, when you are in a social gathering, don’t be that High Official which you are at your office. Be what your present role is. Learn to switch roles seamlessly and learn to be comfortable in different role. Prepare guidelines for different roles e.g how will be behave as a Manager, do’s and don’ts of that. Strictly follow these rules to play your role well.

Problem comes when we don’t play our role well, or we mix one role with the other or we stick to just one role(Office role). Nobody appreciates or enjoys, when you are in a different role that what is needed. You yourself are in great difficulty as your mind is splitted on two roles now. Split mind is confused mind. Whatever you talk or do is not effective enough.

There are multiples ways of reaching your goal

I played a game called as Tom and Jerry, This game taught me a great lesson. Here we needed to clap, clap anywhere on our body or others body. The other person will try to stop you doing that.

It teaches us that we can achieve our goal multiple ways. Do not consider yourself debilitated by just one hindrance. Adapt another way. Be innovative, think out of the box and find out other ways of achieving the same goal. Keep your eye on the Goal. Whatever is the path, you have to achieve that Goal. Don’t come up with excuses of what is hindering you, rather come up with solutions and achieve your goal

Grab the opportunity

Opportunities are there around us all the time. We let those go, by being lazy, by being shy, by taking care too much of others (sacrificing) or by not being committed enough. Have a laser sharp vision for opportunities, spot those, keep your focus and commitment to get those. Don’t worry about whether you will be able to do it or not. Don’t get into the how part yet. Just grab the opportunity. Worst come to worst, you will not be able to do it, so what. At least you would have learnt something out of it.